Lessons from Jeff
Most everyone struggles with certain roles in their lives. “How should I handle this?” “Am I doing it correctly?” Being unaware or insecure, we sometimes question if we measure up.
My husband Jeff has been known to wonder if he is fulfilling his God-given role in our marriage. Ephesians 6:13 says that the husband is “head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.” It’s a tall order for a husband to lead his wife in the same way that Christ leads the church. Jeff does not take that responsibility lightly.
2 Corinthians 6:14 instructs Christians to “not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” Echoed by a probable unbeliever, French writer Antoine de Saint-Exupéry wrote that “love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward[ly] together in the same direction.” What a difference it makes when a husband and wife share the same faith! Jeff loves the Lord.
When we were dating, I discovered that Jeff wouldn’t sweep problems under the rug in an attempt to pacify me. He wisely knew that even if I were in tears, we should work through any problems until they were resolved. He has held to that model throughout our marriage. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.” (Proverbs 9:10 ESV) Jeff has wisdom and insight.
One of the many wonderful character traits of God is that He is merciful. Hebrews 4:15-16 (NASB) says, speaking of Jesus, “For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin. Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” I do not mean to imply that Jeff is without sin. Not at all. He has to go before the Father in repentance, just as I do. But Jeff is available to me, as is my heavenly Father, when I am struggling with insecurity, sin, or temptation, ready to pray for and with me. I can go to him at any time. He does not play the role of my judge. Instead, Jeff is replete with mercy, having received mercy from God through Jesus Christ our Savior.
So, how is Jeff measuring up? I’d say he’s doing all right! He models the love of Christ to me daily.
Despite Jeff being a wonderful partner on whom I can rely, he is not my Savior. The one and only Savior is Jesus Christ, the perfect Son of God, fully God and fully man. He alone was perfectly obedient to the Father. In Him is ALL wisdom and abundant mercy.
As Easter week draws near, come to the Father and His perfect Son, who died and was resurrected for you. You can place all your trust in Him without having that trust betrayed. “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” (Matthew 7:7-8 NASB)